Monday, March 31, 2008
"Silly" disobedience
Don't get me wrong- I LOVE Jaedon's smile!! However, he has learned a precious new trick lately - to flash me those pearly whites while being deliberately defiant. For example- we could be reading a book together or finishing up breakfast and I'll say "Ok, Jaedon, it's time to go get dressed now." And he'll look at me, smile and say "nao"(usually in a babyish voice) then laugh and run away. Hmm... not so cute! I really don't quite know what to do- it makes me MAD!! but I need to figure out if I need to change my approach or what I need to say to him after he does his silly disobedience trick. HeLp?!
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Does he like getting himself dressed? An idea would be to give him either a time-out or spank for the defiance, then say that if he is going to act like a baby then you will choose his clothes and get him dressed because that is what babies need. I've done this with Adrianna and it works because deep down she wants to be independant and wants to do everything herself.
Oh those are the not so fun days. I commiserate!!!! As much as I hate it, the fastest fix I found is to logout FUN.MOMMY and log in THE.STRICT.ENFORCER and hand out spanks on the first offense until the little pip-squeek catches on that the boundaries still exist. A quote I heard by Dr Dobson really helps me with this whole scenario on the days where I'm tempted to knock someone's little smirk off and throw a hissy fit:
"At a football game when a guy jumps off sides, what does the referee do? He doesn’t get red-faced and begin screaming about the virtues of keeping the rule. He drops the flag and he steps off the penalty.
In the same way, when your child messes up, don’t break the peace of your home. Step off the penalty — and do it consistently. Don’t reason with the little guy. Discipline him."
I have so been there and often am there!!! I usually don't get a cute smile when Mara is naughty though. He may be realizing that his next brother is coming soon and trying to get a little attention. So, hopefully, this is a brief phase. :) I try start the morning getting ready by asking if Mara wants me or her to pick her clothes or if she wants face washed or hair combed first. Something like that where they get to pick one of your approved choices. Or, the all time favorite is I say I'm racing to her room or the bathroom. Since you can't race right now, maybe say can you touch your bed and then go to the bathroom door by the time I get there, or something. That always seems to work. Of course, if she won't come I go to our come by count of 5 or you have time out. If she's really being naughty, I say come by count of 5 or X will happen. X is usually denying videos for the next day (a very favorite thing) or putting a favorite toy in time out for a day. A little talk from Daddy about what is expected when he's at work might help too.
:) Lynnette
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